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Last Updated on August 22, 2024 by Paul Clayton
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Breaking Free from Fear when Confronting an Enemy
Fear of confrontation is a common experience. It’s normal to feel anxious and fearful when confronted by an enemy. Many people get nervous when they have to stand up for themselves.
Key Takeaways
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- Confronting Fear: It’s essential to face your fears rather than let them control you. Confrontation is a vital skill for effective communication and self-confidence.
- Consequences of Fear: Giving in to fear leads to loss of control, inability to learn how to fight, and emotional suppression, all of which can have negative long-term effects.
- Strategies to Overcome Fear: Accept fear as a natural response, start small by voicing your opinions in minor situations, face your fears gradually, join a fighting gym, consider cognitive therapy, practice meditation, and read motivational books.
It would be best to learn to face your fear, or it’ll control you. You must understand that confronting your fears is healthy and necessary for communication. Learning how to manage your fears or handle a confrontation is a vital interpersonal skill.
Before I share how you can avoid fear when facing an enemy, let me explain why giving in to fear is never a good idea.
3 Reasons Why You Should Never Give in To Fear in a Confrontation
1) Lose Control of the Situation
When you start showing signs of fear, you automatically lose control of the fight/situation. You give the opponent the upper hand even before the fight starts.
Your enemy, for example, will choose when the fight starts. They won’t need to react; they will need to react.
Therefore, by giving in and showing signs of fear, you’re giving away the situation and making.
The fight is easier for the enemy and harder for yourself.
Practicing fearlessness: Losing control of a situation can be disorienting and distressing. It can leave you feeling overwhelmed, uncertain, and powerless. In such a situation, staying composed and taking deliberate steps to regain control is important.
The first step is to pause and take a deep breath. Give yourself a moment to collect your thoughts and calm your emotions. Taking this brief break can prevent you from acting impulsively or making hasty decisions that may worsen the situation.
Once you’ve composed yourself, it is crucial to assess the situation objectively. Try to gain a clear understanding of the factors contributing to your loss of control. Identify which aspects are within your influence and which are beyond your control. This evaluation will help you determine where to effectively focus your efforts and resources.
It’s important to accept that certain situation elements cannot be changed or controlled. This acceptance doesn’t mean giving up; instead, it allows you to let go of unnecessary stress and concentrate on the areas where you can make a difference. Recognize that everyone faces situations with limited control, and how you respond matters.
Next, prioritize and create a plan of action. Identify the key issues or tasks that you can tackle to regain control. Break them into smaller, manageable steps and prioritize them based on their importance and urgency. A structured plan will give you a sense of direction and purpose, enabling you to progress despite the challenges.
In moments of feeling out of control, seeking support can be immensely helpful. Contact trusted friends, family, or colleagues for advice, guidance, or a listening ear. Sometimes, an outside perspective can illuminate alternative solutions or strategies you may have overlooked. Collaborating with others can also distribute the workload and provide a collective effort to regain control.
2) Fear Never Teaches You How to Fight
If you always give in to fear, you’ll never learn how to fight or confront your enemy. Of course, I get that you don’t want to get into an altercation or harm yourself or others, but remember that cowering won’t help either.
The more fights you take, the more you improve and get better.
3) Suppressing Emotions is Wrong
People who always avoid confrontations tend to bottle up their emotions, which can only happen for so long. If you don’t process and express your emotions promptly, you’re more likely to release more hostile/aggressive behavior later.
Now, before you jump in my face, understand that confronting your fear doesn’t mean being violent- far from that. Sometimes, stepping back and avoiding a confrontation is valid and beneficial.
Suppressing fear emotions is not necessarily wrong, but it may not always be the most effective or healthy approach. Fear is a natural human emotion that serves a protective purpose, alerting us to potential dangers and threats. It can provide valuable information and motivate us to take appropriate action. However, suppressing or ignoring fear without addressing its underlying causes or understanding its message can have negative consequences.
When fear arises, it is important to acknowledge and validate the emotion. Recognize that it is a normal response to specific situations and serves a purpose. Trying to completely suppress or ignore fear can lead to emotional repression, increased anxiety, and potentially long-term psychological effects.
Instead of suppressing fear, it is often more beneficial to manage and process it healthily.
The problem comes when you always give in to confrontation and hide whenever your enemy is in the corner. You must step up, become more aggressive, and improve your confidence.
Here’s how to do it:
How Not to Fear When Confronted by an Enemy
Acceptance
First, you must understand that fear is an emotion that is hard to control. You can’t wish it away, either. In most cases, emotions, including fear, are usually a valid assessment of the situation and usually come from the brain.
Therefore, the first step is accepting your brain is wired to respond that way, and it’s a mechanism to protect you from danger. It also helps to know that many people usually experience the same thing.
So, how do you go about this evolution mechanism?
There are different ways to approach this, but the first step is to accept everything going on in your mind. Sometimes, you’ll realize that you’re in more danger by trying to avoid a fight. You give your opponent more courage by trying to avoid a fight. It’s usually a catch-22 situation because everyone suggests you avoid a fight.
So, if you accept the situation, you’ll stop running away from fear. In short, “just sit” and go with whatever is happening.
Start Small
Confrontation is tough, but you could start small. That’s what I did. Rather than repress conflict and bottle up emotions, you could start by voicing your views in small situations or arguments.
For example, you could start by not repressing your thoughts on stuff you don’t like, and with time, you’ll gain the confidence to speak out about bigger things in sticker situations.
Also, while at it, take your time to articulate your thoughts before voicing your opinions so that you don’t get rolled sideways.
Face your Fears
If you need to build confidence, you must face your fears and start doing things that are a bit scary.
You’re likely afraid if you’ve not been exposed to fear, violence, or struggles. So, the way to go about it is to face your fears.
As mentioned, you don’t have to go hard on yourself when starting. For example, you could start by approaching and talking to random strangers, especially if that’s outside your personality. You could join a fighting gym, spend time in the woods, or hold a tarantula.
In short, try things that put you through paces so you learn what struggle is and how to avoid 
the fear of confrontation. Get out of your comfort zone so that you can cultivate confidence. You might not know it, but confidence is already inside you, and you need to find and cultivate it.
Of course, facing your fears doesn’t mean you go looking for fights, but if you want to stop doing chicken little, you need to get your manly act together and get used to manly stuff.
Join a Fighting Gym
Most people avoid confrontations because they lack confidence in their fighting ability. If a confrontation is not resolved, the next step is violence.
I firmly believe in Jordan Peterson, and I love it when he says you can only be peaceful if you’re capable of violence. Otherwise, you’re not peaceful and good for valid reasons.
Therefore, practicing martial arts and learning how to fight can be the answer to confronting your fears. Get comfortable with violence because violence is what makes you step back.
Muay Thai, in particular, is a great way to up your confidence. It turns a sheep into a lion. Sparring in a safe and controlled environment that replicates actual fights eliminates the anxiety and fear of confrontation.
You become used to fighting, confrontations, and even battling your mind. You also get more comfortable in dangerous situations because you’ll have nothing to fear if confrontation arises. After all, if it escalates to a higher level, you know how to defend yourself.
Consider Cognitive Therapy
I also suggest you consider cognitive behavioral therapy to help with social interactions. Generally, any therapy will help boost your confidence and improve your assertiveness.
Learn Meditation
Meditation works. Fear comes from inner voices that tell us something or a situation isn’t safe. However, we also have parts within us that know the truth, but sometimes, they’re too quiet to hear.
Meditation will help you discover the inner truths and allow you to listen to the stronger voice. These inner voices bolster your response to anxieties and fear, making you aware of your surroundings and more resilient.
Read Books
Finally, consider books for motivation. I recommend The 12 Rules of Life by Jordan Peterson. The Courage to be Disliked is also a fantastic pick. It teaches you to be okay with annoying people and leave your comfort zone. Both are wonderful self-help books.
This video has been included to clarify the topic. Credit goes to Fight SCIENCE
Wrapping Up
Fear of confrontation is common and natural, but it’s crucial to confront it rather than let it control you. Avoiding fear leads to losing control over situations, hinders your ability to learn how to defend yourself, and can result in suppressed emotions that may manifest as hostility.
To break free from fear, you must accept it as a natural response and understand that it serves a protective purpose. Begin by facing smaller confrontations and gradually work your way up to more significant challenges. Practicing martial arts, particularly Muay Thai, can help build confidence in physical confrontations. Cognitive behavioral therapy can also be beneficial in improving social interactions and assertiveness.
Meditation can help you listen to your inner voice and strengthen your response to fear and anxiety. Reading motivational books like “The 12 Rules for Life” by Jordan Peterson and “The Courage to be Disliked” can provide valuable insights and encouragement to leave your comfort zone and confront your fears.
Facing your fears is about building confidence, becoming comfortable with confrontation, and managing fear effectively. By adopting these strategies, you can improve your ability to handle confrontations and become more resilient in the face of fear.
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