8 Reasons Why Fighting Fair is Futile
When most people think of what they would do when confronted or in a physical fight, they tend to think of what they would do in a “fair” fight and usually fall back to those reactions in a real fight.
But the problem is there’s usually no such thing as a fair fight. If it’s fair, it’s not a fight; it’s a competition. You need to treat every fight as life or death to survive. After all, if they try fighting without letting you have any choice, you’re entitled to do anything to win.
First Rule of Self-Defense, Don’t Fight
The first rule of self-defense is you should never fight anyone. Do everything you can to avoid a physical confrontation. You will always win 100% in fights you were never involved in or avoided. I always tell my readers to say they don’t want to fight when confronted. Keep saying you don’t want to fight, and back away as soon as possible. 99% of the time, whatever it is peters out.
Avoiding street fights is the best self-defense advice because, from experience, street fights are far more dangerous and less glamorous than people think.
First, most street fights are usually over some bulls**t, small ego s**t.
Fights over nothing worthy. In most situations, you’ll find that street fights are nothing to do about defending yourself from harm.
Secondly, it’s easy to do or receive life-long injuries or even kill/die in ways you never anticipated.
Finally, perhaps what’s more important, and what brings me to the context of our topic, is you’re usually at the complete mercy of a total stranger. Your opponent cares less about the fighting rules and will kick you even when you’re down, steal your stuff, etc.
Therefore, if you find yourself in a situation where you’ve no choice but to hurt your opponent, hit them hard and quickly as possible.
Of course, as I mentioned earlier, you should never get into a fight. Try avoiding confrontation as much as possible. But if it turns physical, and the aggressor is the initiator, you’re legally covered and have the option of self-defense. It’s particularly true if you consider your life or well-being at immediate risk and have no idea what harm they can do to you.
And the thing is, if you’re genuinely defending yourself against harm or danger, you don’t have to worry about Queensbury rules or the off-limits illegal punches and what others will think later.
Instead, do whatever you can, and fight like your life depends on it. Your actions should be as brutal and lethal as you can make them. Nothing should be off-limits in such a situation, and you should never fight fair.
Why There’s No Fair Street Fight: What is Fair Fight
For any sensible person, there’s nothing like a fair fight.
Here’re my reasons.
First, a sensible person wouldn’t want to get into a fight in the first place, even if they think they can win. And it isn’t fair if one person doesn’t want to fight, but the other is trying to fight them.
Secondly, there’s nothing like a fair fight, especially if you don’t know your opponent’s full capabilities. This is a literal definition of an unfair fight situation. You don’t know your opponent’s potential or even whether they have weapons on them, which puts you at a disadvantage. It’s unfair.
The third reason is that the goal of any fight situation is to win. You shouldn’t put your safety on the line in a street fight for others’ opinions. Do whatever you can to get that win. In a street fight situation, nothing is off limits; what matters is that you beat their ass and won, not the other way around.
Finally, street fights have different dynamics than arranged fights or sports fights. The problem with street fights is that everyone usually has a plan until they get punched in the nose. The street fights usually don’t play out as you would imagine. They’re much faster, with more charged combatants, and you can never bet on ideal circumstances. There’re so many variables in a street fight that could put you at a disadvantage.
Fair Fight Definition
The concept of fair fight can be interpreted differently, depending on the context. The most common definition, or rather a version of a fair fight, is a competition or battle that adheres to certain rules. Most of these fights are seen in sports fighting competitions such as boxing and kickboxing.
In other situations, fair fights can be witnessed when a fight is considered morally just or equitable.
In most cases, combatants engaging in a fair fight claim to be fighting for something, but in the real sense, they’re just fighting to be seen fighting. Plus, neither of the parties usually wants a serious outcome. It’s like showboating, which is why the idea of a fair fight is complex and nuanced. It’s also arbitrary. It’s like telling one of the combatants not to use a high ground because it’s unfair.
Some argue that the importance of a fair fight is that the outcome is determined by skills and strategy, other than factors like cheating, physical strength, mental advantage, or other resources. On the other hand, others argue that fairness is less desirable, especially in survival situations.
But ultimately, my thought on this is that street fights shouldn’t be fair, regardless of the circumstances or your values. You can’t put your life on the pretext of upholding fairness while your aggressor cares less about it.
Fighting Unfairly VS Fighting Dirty
You need to understand when I mean “not fighting fairly” that I’m thinking less about stuff like biting, groin strikes, eye gouging, etc. Instead, my definition of unfair fight is not fighting on the enemy’s turf or your aggressor’s terms.
And this underlines the importance of knowing self-defense and mastering the basics of martial arts. After all, there’s an old saying; “learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.”
Of course, you need to have some dirty tricks up your sleeves in case your combatant decides to fight dirty. But the truth is, most dirty tricks are usually weak and mostly used by people who don’t know how to fight.
I’ve been a self-defense expert for several years now, and it’s really funny how many people without martial arts experience think they can easily win a fight by fighting dirty. It’s a very popular opinion, especially for guys without martial arts/combat training; they think they can win just any street fight because they won’t fight fair and will simply power through with this mentality.
Of course, if executed properly, a dirty technique is effective. Eye gouging, kicking the balls, biting fingers, and grabbing your opponent’s face are all effective techniques to stop a fight. Grabbing hair is also enough to make your opponent change directions quickly.
But accurately punching someone in the face or kicking them in the balls is another thing. I can tell you that it’s harder than you think. Plus, most of the illegal dirty tricks aren’t that effective, and for the untrained/unfit guys, it’s difficult to pull them off anywhere, especially when under an adrenaline dump.
For example, kicking the balls is an effective dirty technique, and I’ve been kicked square on the balls. It did suck, but I never went down. If I were in a street fight, I would have beaten my opponent harder than I had planned.
Eye pokes are also another popular dirty trick. It’s effective if well executed, but the problem is that it’s usually really hard to poke someone in a street fight. In most cases, the combatants are usually close up.
The truth is most fights happen so fast that you don’t have time to think. You won’t have the time to execute your dirty tricks because fighting is a reaction, and you only fight as you train. So, unless you train how to grab the balls or bite, you won’t use these tricks in a fighting situation and won’t do anything.
Think about all the women with sharp fingernails and teeth who’ve been sexually 
harassed. Most are within arm’s reach of the aggressor’s most sensitive part of the male anatomy, and we rarely hear a woman who clawed their attacker’s penis or gouged their eyes.
Nothing sums up all of this more than the Greek poet Archilochus’s quote that says, “You don’t rise to your level of expectations, but fall to the level of our training.”
In my opinion, fighting unfairly is learning more about self-defense, knowing where, when and how to hit, hitting hard, and, more importantly, optimizing the process to increase your chances of winning.
For example, I’ve had as much success with pre-emptive strikes. Hitting your aggressor when they least expect and screaming as you launch your attack to maximize the shock factor. This is more of what I usually think about unfair fights. Not fighting on the aggressors’ terms or using dirty, cheap tricks on them.
Unfair Fight Considerations
With that said, you must keep in mind a couple of things if you decide to fight unfairly.
Legality
You need to consider the legality of your action. The aim of self-defense is to keep you or your loved ones safe and from harm. But depending on the situation, it’s also easy to go too far in the other direction and end up in prison. Permanently maiming your aggressor is also not appropriate in an altercation.
Revenge
Fighting dirty may also escalate the fight, and in some cases, it invites revenge attempts from the aggressor.
This video has been included for its clarification of the topic matter. Credit goes to Doc David
Anyone sensible knows that fighting is not worth anything. My advice is that you always try to avoid fights as much as possible.
However, if you can’t do anything about it, be willing to be lethal. Unleash your beast mode, and go out of your way. Don’t care about what others will say after the fight. After all, people invented honor so they could jerk their egos.
You’ll need to fight fair only in arranged competitions such as MMA or boxing. In the real world, there is a lot of unfairness. Cheat as much as possible; it’s not a game, but a matter of life and death, so don’t stick to the rules.
